Becoming a mum is a life-changing experience no one is ever prepared for. You can read all the books, get through a bundle of stories, and perhaps even take a postpartum class. And still, once the baby is placed in your hands, everything changes, and in an instant. For new mums, the whole experience can be filled with beautiful moments, but amid those moments also lurks the occasional hard surprise, sadness, and the unexpressed truths of new real-life emotions and challenges.
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The Emotional Roller Coaster
You have thought of those joyful times after the birth of your baby. While some moments are joyous, there are also moments of confusion and anxiety and even the occasional sadness for one’s life prior. Hormone changes, sleepless nights, and the havoc of caring for a tiny human can leave you feeling not so structured. And that really just makes you human; it does not, in any way, imply a lack of the motherly instinct.
The Public Pressure To “Bounce Back”
There’s so much pressure to look, feel, and act like you’re back to your old self one week after delivery: social media, family, friends, and strangers offer unsolicited advice. Of course, you and your body are not the same as you were before. You have changed in so many special ways. You are practising self-love by prioritising your healing over society’s expectations. Different body? Fine! Different priorities? Absolutely! And totally normal.
The Lonely Pathway
Underneath all that, early motherhood can feel awfully isolating, even amidst family and friends. The long nights, endless feeding cycles, and lack of adult conversation can baffle you. Even small gestures to reach out and connect with other new mothers or support groups can make a huge difference. Though it might feel like it, you are not alone.
Finding Support In The Right Places
The right information and support can make all the difference. Belly Belly is another great resource for real, down-to-earth advice and help for new mothers. Finding honest advice on everything from postpartum recovery to feeding concerns and going to the right people for answers and reassurance will make all the difference.
Self-Care Isn’t Selfish
New mothers are often on guilt trips for thinking about a bit of time for themselves. But self-care is not a luxury; it is a non-negotiable requirement. Even if it’s a hot shower, a solitary stroll, or sitting for five minutes to take a deep breath, those are moments that help fill your cup again so you may continue to pour. You are still you, and nurturing that part of you is just as important as nurturing your baby.
You Don’t Have To Do It Alone
Motherhood should not be an individual endeavour. Whether it’s a question, telling your story, or wanting an ear to listen, there is a community for you. Find your first opportunity and reach out for the support you need. You can do this; there are people ready to offer you their hands all the way down the line.
